How do I want to feel?

A month ago today, I turned 39 and in these past few weeks, I’ve started a new job, moved to a new city (part-time) and launched a new project.

Side note : if you know any French speaking teachers who could benefit from a more balanced work-home life, send them my way @enseignanteequilibree on Instagram and on Facebook!

Strangely though, while this may seem like a lot, I feel like I’ve accomplished nothing at all this past month and I can’t seem to shake this feeling.

In order to figure it out, I had to slow down (meaning taking time to journal and meditate) to ask myself why I was feeling this way and this is what came up :

Basically, my birthday represents my New Years for me so I usually take some time to reflect on the past year and set goals for the new one. However, I didn’t take the time to do that this year because I actually started my new job on my birthday and the past month has literally been a whirlwind. So it makes sense that I feel like something is missing.

But it’s not too late, right? Nope!

However, I’ve decided to change it up a little this time around because I feel the need to slow down more often.

Instead of asking myself : “What do I want to work on?” or “What do I want to accomplish this year?”, I’m choosing to ask myself: “How do I want to feel?” every single day because I’ve realised that moving, starting a new job and launching a new project is a pretty big transition and that I need to give myself time to adapt.

Now, how will I maintain this? By checking in with myself not only every single day, but multiple times a day to see what I really NEED and WANT to do.


I NEED to give myself time to adapt to my new surroundings as I figure out a new routine so it’s ok to take it one day at a time. If I’m tired, I’ll rest. If I want to read, I’ll read. If I feel like writing, I’ll write. If I want to go for a walk, I’ll go for a walk.

But I will NOT feel guilty if I choose to not do something either. Like choosing to stay in last night rather than going for a walk and watching This is Us 💜


And I will take the time to be silly with my husband more often!

That’s my plan for my 39th year and it sounds pretty good to me. My only objective: to enter my forties as happy and as healthy as possible. Only eleven months to go!

Do you get all “thinky” around your birthday? Do you set goals? If so, how do you stay focused?

4 thoughts on “How do I want to feel?

  1. I am so proud of all that you have undertaken in the past month. You are strong beyond what is to be expected of you. Don’t be so hard on yourself through it all. L’amour devant tout…particulièrement avec toi-même. 💜

    You continue to inspire me. This post came at just the right time for me. I love being silly with you. It keeps 7s young at heart. And that’s all that matters. 🤗

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  2. France

    Merci merci merci
    Je vis une situation similaire et je me questionnais de tout bord. Ton blog arrive au bon moment. 🤗


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